Having friends are part and parcel of our lives (most of us do have, i believe?). However, having true friends around you is another matter. How many of us do really have true friends around us all the time? In every stage of our lives, from childhood to teenage hood, different kinds of people have stepped into our lives. People who have brought joy, laughter, happiness and even sadness. Of course, these are people who we believe, are our friends. Some of them are able to stay with us till today, however, some of them have just become part of our memories or even, are being forgotten like a stranger who just walked past our paths of journey.
But did you ever ponder, even if you really have a longtime friend or a buddy who has been walking beside you until today, does he or she is really being true to you? Or even so, are they treating you the same way as how they have treated their new friends? Some may believe, having 5 years or even 10 years of friendship, it's okay that we neglect and even show lesser concern, or even abit of attitude towards the other party. Because they may think, we've been friends for so long and thus it's okay since we are good friends!
Most people tend to take things for granted whenever they still have everything in hands. When they realise they have lost it, it's time that they know the importance of cherishing. However, it's too late since there's no turning back. You may have hurt the person or yr loved ones so deeply that the pain and wounds will never heal. Yes, it may heal but with the scar remains, etching deep in their hearts.
In my life, i have seen many breaking and patching up of friendships. Of course, i have experienced it myself too. Being a pessimistic and emotional person, i know the feeling of pain and torment of losing a friend. Hence i treat every friendship seriously.
I admit that I am definitely not a very good friend, since I do cause pain and sadness to my friends... or even at times, fail to comply with the dates i had promised with my friends. things always cropped up whenever i had an arranged date with my friends. however, is this really true or just an excuse? it depends on which angle that each individual looks at, by believing what kind of person i am.
i think that friendships are just like glasses. they are very fragile, which can be broken easily if you are not looking after them carefully. and once they are broken, they can be patched back again, but with cracks and fragments that may hurt you while picking up all the pieces.
because i feel that friendships are so fragile, i am always trying my best to hold the trust i have from my friends. you may disagree with me that friendships can be fragile. just think about it, you can say that you have a very strong bond of friendship with a particular person. what if there's one day, she or he has done something really bad and hurtful to you, will you really able to forget about it and remain as best friends? yes you can, but are you sure that both of you can be as good as what it used to be? speak truthfully to your heart.
and it's tiring at times when all of us have to always keep in minds of each others' feelings, remembering not to hurt the other party. this can be one of the reasons why friendships are so fragile. everyone has become so sensitive to each other's feeling that when one has done something wrong, they will be angry or upset over it, even if it's just a trival matter. so it's really important to give and take at times. forgiving is very important. of course, being a good friend does not always hope for a return whenever he or she does something for their friends.
friendships are not a commercialised trade or business but are all about true feelings. i really feel sad for people who treat their friends with a mask over their faces, never ever show the true self of themselves.
whatever it is, be always true to your friends and be your own self. i believe that true friends will never make you change for them but to accept of who you are and what you are. and most importantly, please be forgiving and understanding if they really hurt you. they are not intentionally to hurt you but just at the moment of folly or anger, they have said or done something wrong. just say sorry and give a hug! and here it comes, a brand new start (:
